Ohlala Couple

I hope many of my readers will take the time to watch Ohlala Couple (Korean drama.)  This drama is about a couple in their mid 40s facing a crisis where the husband is having an affair outside after 12 years of marriage and the wife is not appreciated for being a homemaker. Then something happens after their divorce.

This may be another Korean drama to some critic but watch the show before you comment.  I find most Korean drama are somewhat related to what is happening in our lives and situation in Malaysia, though most of their series are taken from Manga (Japanese Comic.)  Beside the handsome and pretty faces on the screen there is the music that is worth a thousand smiles.

I have given up hope on our local artiste after Sudirman passed away. Our movies and drama died along side with P. Ramlee and Sudirman.  That is the sad truth about our local artiste.  People like Yuna and Shila were very brave to venture outside this country to seek success.  Had these two remain in the local scene they too would have become some VVIP second, third or fourth wife and that would be their deathbed.  I am no fan of that Siti girl who is not worth a salt compare to Yuna.  

Again I have gone off track on Ohlala Couple.  All couples go through crisis in their marriage.  There is no such thing as happy marriage.  There is the money, infidelity, tidak apa attitude and non communication that happen in all marriages.

I like what Rain (Korean artiste) said in one of his interview regarding marriage. “I will show off my partner and be in communication with her at all times.”  

Many marriages failed because there is the failure of communication.  Many couples do not trust each other to talk.  Talking is not ‘what’s there to eat or iron my shirt or take out the rubbish or the tap is leaking or your son wants RM50 for books or go buy chicken from the market etc…………..Talking is much more than that.  When was the last time your partner hold your hand, talk to you in the most intimate way, look into your eyes to show understanding and concern. I am not talking about just before having sex. Everything is taken for granted or normal after marriage.  That is so sad. 

Then they are some who do not deserve to get marry.  These are the ones who hide their marriage, abuse their spouse mentally and physically, commit incest, demand for open marriage and those who screw and get screw outside.  Good examples are UMNO and MCA leaders and their children.

I was asked to help a woman who married a VVIP son.  This woman had tried to commit suicide several times after giving birth.  According to source the mother-in-law does not want the public to know about the marriage.  The reason was PRIVACY, since the father-in-law is a billionaire and once a Minister.  Funny though this mother-in-law always seek publicity and even splash millions in donation for attention local and abroad.  It is common knowledge that if one needs money just approach her and bingo you will get your CASH or sponsorship.

According to source, the husband mentally and physically abuses her in close doors and is often seen outside with this and that artiste.  Money is not the issue here as she gets to spend millions because of the child she bore. Today she looks more like a grandmother than her age.  And she had only been married for five years. The husband is the only son so that explain his attitude and behaviour.  The woman married for money and position, so there is no solution to her problem, unless she succeeds in her suicide. Then you will know who I am talking about.

To keep a house in peace is simple but not many people realize that.  I call it the 48 hours dateline.

1. Repair all leakage and damage.
2. Change light bulb.
3. Have a family meal together.
4. Pretend to listen.
5. Mark your diary for events.
6. Write down what has to be done.

All this can be achieved if you just sit down for a meal and spent a couple of minute to do the odd jobs around the house.  Is it so difficult to spare one hour from that 48 hours to maintain peace?

I know of families whose only meal together is on their mother/grandmother’s birthday.  And that is only once a year.  What happens when the old lady passes away?